GYLB – #1 Choose Your Tribe

I bet you are wondering what GYLB stands for aren’t you? Fair dinkum, well it stands for Get Your Life Back.

The thing is, I think our lives are increasingly owned by other people; some we care about but some we don’t: our families, friends, colleagues, our boss, the bank, clients, suppliers, Santa and so on. Well I think it is time we made a brave stab at repossessing our lives and that is what this series of 7 blog entries is all about.

The first one is all about people and is called Choose Your Tribe.

There can be little doubt that people provide the biggest boost and the biggest drain on our energy and therefore personal well-being. In other words some people brighten our day and make us feel better and some do the opposite. These people, good and bad, are collectively called our Tribe and we should select them with care.

We want the maximum number of boosters and the minimum number of drains and here’s how you do it: –

Take a piece of paper and draw a box on it similar to the one illustrated above. Then over a period of a couple of weeks or so fill it with names of the people in your Tribe. It takes this long because our memories sometimes fail us and we need to come into contact with somebody to remember that we know them. Each box has a designation as follows: –

  • B 1 – you have no choice but to see these people but sadly they drain your energy. They could be co-workers,members of your family or even friends in the same social circle as your where your relationship is not what it once was. The idea is to engineer your life to see as little of these people as you can (see GYLB #4 in a months time) and think of way you can move them completely into B3.
  • B 2 You see these people a lot (you have no choice) but they boost your energy levels. They are pretty much the same examples given in B1 but the difference is you should try and improve the quality of the contact as well as the quantity. We have a tendency to take these people for granted!
  • B 3 – We can choose whether these people are in our lives or not but they drain us. Be brave! Get rid of them as fast as you can. Stop seeing them (tell them straight or just be unavailable; your choice) or just gradually engineer them away from you – DON’T LET THEM CONTROL HOW YOU FEEL.
  • B 4 – awoooogar! These are the people who boost your energy but because you don’t have to see them you probably don’t connect with them anywhere near enough. Do something about this now. Pick the phone up, tap out an email or sling a text across but whatever method you choose arrange something right now.

So, you can either continue to let people have some control over your energy levels or you can make a start to transform your life so that you only come into contact with boosters. Just how cool would that be and you are the onewho can make this happen!

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